Do you currently feel stuck in life? Are you in a place where you don’t want to be anymore? Do you want to create something so much greater in your life?
In this post I want to share how to get unstuck in life by believing in possibilities.
But before I get to that, let me share a story with you…
About 5 years ago, I was living a life that wasn’t fulfilling. I was working a job I didn’t enjoy, I was in so much debt and the only thing I looked forward to was going out and partying with my friends on weekends.
I got to a point where I wanted so much more in life, yet I couldn’t figure out how I could move on from that – I felt completely stuck.
After discovering Personal Development, I went on a journey of personal growth and I started learning how I could create the shift I wanted in my life. Back then, I didn’t believe anything else was possible because I was so “stuck”. I felt like that was it, like there was no more to life; and I certainly didn’t know of any tools or strategies to continue moving forward in my life. But once I got into my personal development journey, I quickly I started learning about the power of believing in possibilities.
When I started learning this, I realised that instead of focusing on my life as if “that’s just the way it is and there’s nothing I can do about it”, I can shift my focus to “what is possible? What can I create in my life?” Once I had this shift, I started dreaming in possibilities like becoming a millionaire, travelling the world and having a thriving business.
So my focus went from “this is the way things are” to “let me dream in possibilities and see what can happen”. When I changed my focus, my life started changing and I was seeing things I had never seen before like new opportunities, new people I could relate to and I also found a mentor. All of this happened because of my change to believing in possibilities.
An awesome analogy I learned from one of my mentors, Shane, says that a lot of people live in the “period or full stop”. You would know grammar; when you write a sentence you close it by using a period/full stop because that’s the end of the sentence and that’s just the way things are. And that’s where I was living in my life 5 years ago; I was working a crappy job and I was in so much debt (period).
When I heard Shane speak about living in possibilities, he said to take away the “period or full stop” from your life – from seeing things as “this is just the way they are” – and replace it with a “question”. For example, you might say “I’m broke (period). That’s my life and there’s nothing more to that (period). I’m broke and I have to settle for that (period).” However, that’s not going to allow you to think about possibilities, what else you could achieve and actually go and create that. But by taking away the period or full stop and putting a question mark at the end of “I’m broke (question mark)?”, that will automatically open up possibilities for you.
Let’s put this into practice…
Instead of saying “I’m broke (period)”, you can say:
“I’m broke (question)?”
“But do I have to be broke (question)?”
“Could I achieve a lot more out of life (question)?”
And then you can start looking outside of yourself and asking questions like:
“I might be broke, but is there other people in the world who were once broke but ended up creating financial success (question)?”
Have you noticed yet that, by changing the way you think, you’ve gone from living your life in the “period or full stop” to living in the “question” and in possibilities of “what is possible in my life?”?
When you get to the point where you’re living in possibilities, you’re going to start noticing so many things in your life, like new opportunities and new people who will support you in moving toward the life of your dreams.
The question I want you to take away and ask yourself is: “Am I living in the period or full stop of my life? And if I am, what can I do to start living in the question, or start dreaming in possibilities, so I can create the life I want?”
For me, making the shift to living in the “question”, allowed me to find everything I needed to start moving toward the life of my dreams. And if YOU start applying it today, I know it'll help you to do the same!
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Oooh — I love that idea of viewing things with a question rather than a period. Sort of like afformations. I used to say, I’m not good at …….. And now, I can ask, How is it that I’m learning to …….. Or even more generally, How can I look at ……. differently. The brain loves questions and goes on a search for answers. Thanks for this post, Alex.
You got it Carol! It makes sure a huge difference to start operating from questions instead of periods. When we operate from period, we tell our brains that “this is the way things are, and there’s no other way.” Quite a disempowering approach really!
To have a mindset of living the present moments of today to the fullest, is being connected with yourself and being in your life every second of the day!
It sure is Annalize 🙂
It goes without saying that you need to have the right mindset in order for things to flow more smoothly in your life. Instead of saying I can’t do this because ___ you need to start asking questions like how can I do this?
Spot on Stephanie! You got it 🙂
Great advice!
Love your story on what discovering personal development has done for your life. I can totally relate. After discovering Napoleon Hill and studying his success principles I started to understand how to advice the life I’ve always wanted.
It’s amazing what happens when you start investing in yourself.
Awesome George! Napoleon Hill was one the first to influence my life too!
And totally know what you mean… when you invest in yourself, you’ll reap the rewards 🙂
That’s interesting about this post Alex is something that Tony Robbins says, in order to make a change you have to make a decision. But before being able to make a decision you have to be in the right state to decide.
Love that Peter! It’s all about being in a peak state. If you get into a peak state, the quality of your decisions increases!
Thanks for sharing 🙂
Really appreciate the advice Alex because this reminds me of how stupid I was 2 years ago for feeling as if it was the end of it all. I put a period in my life after getting broke but just like you, I discovered personal development and since then, my mindset and outlook in life has completely changed.
We are all a work in progress. We’re not finished products so the best thing to do is to keep moving forward and look to improve.
That’s right Noel! Life can suck when we’re in those situations, but we can always change them if we think in terms of possibilities 🙂
A lot of great strategies here Alex. I’m interested, what initially got you into personal development 5 years ago? Was there a particular book or seminar?
Long story Joe. Will have to tell you over Skype or something 🙂
But in short, a friend introduced me to Tony Robbins because I started asking question about one of his Tony Robbins programs he had at his house.
The whole period versus question mark analogy really has me thinking :-), I’m an analyzer so I’m trying to wrap my head around it. Very creative post Alex, thanks so much for sharing!
You’ll get it Kahnie! It’s so easy to understand 🙂
Mindset IS everything. So many mitigate it’s power! When we realize WE are in charge of our destiny, choosing our path, it all starts to open up! But then fear and resistance always show up! I call it testing me on how bad I really want the thing I want so bad! Then I can embrace fear and resistance and move forward. Not always so easy, but keep practicing! Consistency gets rewarded!! Thanks for this Alex!